In My Head

"…Some people call me Maurice,
Cause I speak of the pompitous of love.."

What on earth is a pompitous?

I’m thinking of doing Meyer’s Brigg type testing again. I did the test in Feb 2004, before thisCastle was even a gleam in my eye, and things have changed a bit since then. Back then I tested as INTP, introverted-intuitive-thinking-perceiving. I’m not absolutely certain, but I’d be willing to bet that nothing will have changed too much.

My friend Marlene (the engineer) and her work team had type testing done and they all tested as introverts, except one, referred to as Bubble Boy.

Deb, my office mate, was quite needy today, asking me (!) for advice about her 15-year-old daughter. Like I know anything about 15-year-olds other than what I was like when I was 15. She started by asking me if I believed that men and women could have friendships together, and if I didn’t think that one or the other would have different expectations or desires.

She was asking because she isn’t satisfied with how her daughter defines her relationship with a young man. Deb wants the relationship clarified in her mind as boyfriend-girlfriend, regardless how the daughter and the young man want to define their involvement. She questions her daughter and the daughter tells her that she and the young man are just friends, and Deb doesn’t want to believe, so she asks the question again.

I told her that my best friend is a man, and she scoffed at me. Annoying.

I then told her something along the lines of: "You aren’t going to want to hear this, but you have to back off. If they want to define their relationship as friendship, and that answer isn’t what you want to hear, then it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you."

Then she said something inane about how teens not defining their relationships as boyfriend-girlfriend involvements would lead to the erosion of the institution of marriage

I think I might have snorted when she said this. Sometimes it’s difficult not to laugh in her face.

I have to admit that I am often surprised at how small-minded people can be.

Deb’s excuse for all this was:"I just don’t want anybody to be hurt." Annoying and stupid.

Some months ago Deb came to work and told me that she and her
daughter had had a fight because Deb had read her daughter’s journal,
and her daughter had found out. She then asked me how she could make it up to her daughter.

I told her about Livejournal and suggested that she buy an account for her daughter. I tried to explain about the levels of filtering possible in Livejournal, but she didn’t understand. I think maybe she didn’t know about blogs.

Deb is our web geek. She makes a lot of mistakes on-line and off. Annoying and stupid and of questionable competence.

~ by thiscassandra on Wednesday 31 January 2007.

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